When you set 'bounderies' with someone.. I was told they would end up respecting you more, lol.?

That is NOT how it goes down for me. I find that when you set bounderies, the people respond by guilting you, calling you names, manipulating you, putting your pareting down, poitning out your faults, telling you what is best for your kids and how you are screwing up... I end up walking away feeling tramatized and doubting myself... but in the end.. I am just relieved that I had the guts to do it and am soooo relieved that is done and that I did assert myself. They will 'show' respect because they have to in order for you to be in their lives... but they think you are now a *********.





Has anyone every set bounderies and actaully have the person respect them more???

When you set 'bounderies' with someone.. I was told they would end up respecting you more, lol.?
With some people... yes!


But with people who love pushing your buttons, the insecure, the control freaks... LOL.


I don't mind "making" people respect me. Not dealing with them and the golden silence that comes with it is all the respect I need.


The good news is, most of the time, you only have to say "no" once, or have one bad fallout.


Stay strong!!! :)
Reply:You have to do what's best for your children reguardless of what other say. You must set bounderies when raising children. Be realistic with your bounderies, say what you mean, and mean what you and stand your ground. If you love your children, you can't let them run wild and do what ever they want because of something you may have done in the past. Once my children became adults and had children of their own and as their children are growing, they really respect me now for setting limits, enforcing curfews, discipling, demanding respect, not trying to be their friend, and standing my ground as a parent.
Reply:Well when you set boundaries if a person can not respect what your wishes are then the hell with them.